Adult ADHD & Burnout Therapy
Individual and Couples Therapy in Eugene, Oregon
Something Has to Force You Before Anything Moves
The task gets done.
It gets done once the deadline has turned into an emergency and something finally arrives with enough force to move you.
That something is panic.
You’re Smart, Capable, and Still Finding This Hard
Tasks pile up, routines come apart, and the day ends with a running list of everything you didn’t finish.
The real question underneath all of this is why someone this dependable finds an ordinary week this heavy.
There’s an answer, and it lives in how you get yourself moving in the first place.
Something has been supplying that push for years, reliably enough that you stopped noticing it.
Criticism Became the Push You Run On
Somewhere along the way, guilt started working.
Panic ahead of a deadline gets the thing done.
Feeling awful about how far behind you are gets you moving again.
For a lot of adults with ADHD and burnout, guilt and self-criticism have quietly become the primary source of motivation.
Why It Works, and What It Charges You
It works, which is the hard part.
Every time panic produces a finished task, the method gets confirmed all over again.
The bill arrives later: exhaustion, avoidance, and a sense that every difficulty is more evidence about who you are.
By then the sequence runs on its own, from overwhelm to criticism to a task grown too heavy to touch.
Take That Sequence Apart Piece by Piece
We start with how this actually goes for you.
I’ll ask what happens in the minutes before you shut down.
Together we name what ADHD, anxiety, perfectionism, shame, and nervous-system dysregulation are each contributing.
Once you can see the sequence coming, you have somewhere to intervene.
Build Strategies That Survive a Stressful Week
From there, the work turns practical.
My foundation is person-centered, with ACT, DBT-informed regulation skills, and executive-functioning strategies layered in.
We’ll work on task initiation, routines, time management, emotional regulation, and motivation that comes from somewhere other than self-punishment.
The aim is understanding how your brain and your patterns actually work, then building strategies realistic enough to hold when life gets stressful again.
Pick the Routine Back Up After You Drop It
You notice the sequence starting while there’s still time to do something about it.
A routine falls apart on Thursday, and you rejoin it whenever you rejoin it.
The day ends without the mental audit of everything you believe you failed at.
And You’ll Still Be You Through All of It
You’re still you, capable, ambitious, caring, and human, and running your life stops requiring a fight with yourself.
That version of your week starts with one conversation.
Take the First Twenty Minutes
Bring whatever you’ve got, including an unanswered question about whether ADHD is the right word for any of it.
A free 20-minute consultation is where we talk about what’s been happening, what you want to feel different, and whether working together makes sense.
From there, first sessions run 55 minutes, in my Eugene office or online.
You Just Need Somewhere to Start
You don't have to arrive with everything figured out.
Whether you're exhausted from fighting yourself, tired of fighting with the person you love, or realizing you've spent so much time showing up for everyone else that you've lost track of yourself, we can start figuring out what keeps you here and what could move you forward differently. That starts with a free 20-minute consultation.
Next Sunday evening can look different than the last one.